The challenges of the festive season?

“Tis the season to be jolly”

Socialising, eating, drinking and being merry with family and friends in cosy, sparkly and fun filled environments –

or so we hope!

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Christmas bring lots of expectations of ourselves and others, to have a good time and for everything to be christmas advert perfect!

With family members absent, or living away, financial constraints, seperated parents, relationship challenges, physical illness and mental health issues, let alone the family dynamics when getting together, the reality can be very different.

So prepare for the onslaught to keep yourself positive through this holiday period.

Help others or ask for support as this may prevent you from feeling too fraught.

Have the food menu and present list organised well in advance, if you are hosting. Liaise with the other attendees for ideas to contribute to the smooth running of the celebration days.

Or ask what your host would like you to bring, prepare or contribute if you are lucky enough to be sharing with others, so you feel involved too.

Keep things simple – focus on what is important – spending some quality time with family and friends in convivial surroundings.

Ask someone you know is alone at Christmas to share some celebration with your group.

Volunteer some time or money for the charities supporting the most vulnerable at this time of year.

Giving to others will boost your sense of well being.

Focus on gratitude!

 

For many people it is possible to pace and plan for the festive season, but for some the additional challenges at Christmas time make this much more difficult.

Mental illnesses such as anxiety or health issues worsened by overeating and excessive drinking can be difficult to manage during the festivities.

 Consider how you would ideally like to be, despite these challenges, if you functioned at your best?

Again planning beforehand can be useful.

To access resources which could help you to manage these feelings and anxieties in the coming weeks, input from a Coach or Hypnotherapist can be beneficial for developing new techniques.

Strategies which support you to access your inner resources at crucial moments.

Not always possible right now, but be aware these tools are available for you to access in the future…

Have a positive a festive period!

Looking forward…

It feels easier to be looking forward…

The targets to achieve have had to be found within myself, which has been tough!

Now that the worst of the dark days of winter are over, the weather is giving glimmers of brighter weather, moving forward is on the agenda.

I’m not alone in these feelings of finding it hard, am I?

Working for myself, has been a huge change in my way of life, and at times quite a lonely place. Never worse than in the dreary Uk winter!

No distractions of a team, but none of the pressures either, which has been liberating, but also difficult at times.

Some self reflection has been necessary to move forward.

I recognise this is part of my journey and time has given me space to look at:-

  • who I am emotionally

  • where my strengths lie

  • whom I like connecting to

  • what I find challenging

  • what I need to improve on

  • where I am in my life and what next

  • what opportunities are available to me

This will make me stronger in the long run and more able to focus on where I am heading.

I need to be able to set my targets to continue to be successful and build my practice!

I have tried to embrace these steps for happiness but not always found it easy putting them into practice.

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The first one is particularly relevant, with too much analysing becoming distracting, but may be necessary at my stage of working for myself?

Some exploring has had to be done to gain self acceptance, be able to love more and appreciate more. 

This process may be tough but is beneficial for your skills and experience when working with clients, to understand their blocks and challenges.

Personally I am now more connected with how fortunate I am to have this opportunity to work for myself and build a business.

I am able to feel proud of my achievements to date.

I am engaged with what I can offer others, in order to support clients to make changes.

The outcome is I am planning future services which will help and support people to improve their well being.      So all round benefits.

This is an ongoing journey but acceptance has enabled me to move forward from where I was in my life and feel more focused.

 

 

 

 

The challenges of the festive season?

“Tis the season to be jolly”

Socialising, eating, drinking and being merry with family and friends in cosy, sparkly and fun filled environments –

or so we hope!

autumn-15-206

 

Christmas bring lots of expectations of ourselves and others, to have a good time and for everything to be christmas advert perfect!

With family members absent, or living away, financial constraints, seperated parents, relationship challenges, physical illness and mental health issues, let alone the family dynamics when getting together, the reality can be very different.

So prepare for the onslaught to keep yourself positive through this holiday period.

Help others or ask for support as this may prevent you from feeling too fraught.

Have the food menu and present list organised well in advance, if you are hosting. Liaise with the other attendees for ideas to contribute to the smooth running of the celebration days.

Or ask what your host would like you to bring, prepare or contribute if you are lucky enough to be sharing with others, so you feel involved too.

Keep things simple – focus on what is important – spending some quality time with family and friends in convivial surroundings.

Ask someone you know is alone at Christmas to share some celebration with your group.

Volunteer some time or money for the charities supporting the most vulnerable at this time of year.

Giving to others will boost your sense of well being.

Focus on gratitude!

 

For many people it is possible to pace and plan for the festive season, but for some the additional challenges at Christmas time make this much more difficult.

Mental illnesses such as anxiety or health issues worsened by overeating and excessive drinking can be difficult to manage during the festivities.

 Consider how you would ideally like to be, despite these challenges, if you functioned at your best?

Again planning beforehand can be useful.

To access resources which could help you to manage these feelings and anxieties in the coming weeks, input from a Coach or Hypnotherapist can be beneficial for developing new techniques.

Strategies which support you to access your inner resources at crucial moments.

Not always possible right now, but be aware these tools are available for you to access in the future…

Have a positive a festive period!

Re-focusing, to notice the good things in our lives – boosts our mood.

imageIt is often more challenging to feel happy:-

as the nights draw in and the days become shorter

the days become dull and misty

the cold season rapidly approaches

But don’t dispair!!

A few minutes each day, to reaffirm what is good in our lives, can prevent this becoming a challenge.

Try these simple exercises to refocus your attention and boost your mood!

via 5 Science-Backed Strategies for More Happiness – Mindful

Anxiety – just one experience but similarities for all sufferers.

Anxiety

You know that thing when you wake up really early in the morning and have anxiety? Like you cannot quite put your finger on it but your heart beats fast, your chest feels tight, you go over a zillion mostly irrational things in your head, you have butterflies, think you’re dying, maybe fall asleep for […]

via Anxiety — violetonlineisonline

Celebrating friendships 👩‍👩‍👦‍👦

Do you have those friendships where you haven’t spoken or met for possibly weeks? You know… maybe you shared time as new parents, at college, or a particular work place together?

Challenging and emotional experiences make these friendships intense and special. How people get to know each other and bond over particular times, creates powerful connections. Nurturing these friendships and spending time, if only occasionally, can remind you of who you are and can be immensely supportive.

Ensuring you make time for these friendships by planning meet ups and social events is important. It helps to reinvigorate you and give you energy to move forward in the more difficult times of life. Connecting has the additional benefit of creating experiences and memories, which research suggests is not only bonding for the group members but boosts well being and happiness.

I  am lucky enough to have built a variety of different friendship groups and link up in different ways. The more fun ways the better and here are some examples:-

meet up for a coffee and chat at home or in a local cafe

light lunch at a local farm shop

a few drinks in town

bubble at a local spa

a walk together in the countryside, along a canal or riverbank, or up a hill

a visit to the seaside

a music concert or show together

Having these gatherings in the diary helps to focus you for working through what you need to for life to tick over. They don’t always have to cost much, in fact I find embracing nature is less costly and one of the most calming.

Just need to get the plans in the diary now!…..

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Connecting in a fun positive way helps motivate you and keep you keep connected to your life journey.

 

Recharging!!

imageTime away from it all.

Peace and quiet and a feeling of connection with nature. Choose what you enjoy:-

the beach

the seaside, or coast

the mountains

by a river or canal

in a park

observing animals in nature eg birds or mammals

a country home and gardens

beside a lake

in a forest or woodland

or wetlands.

Anywhere you can observe the sights, smells, noises, sensations and feelings of being in the fresh air.

Know you are alive by connecting with the Earth and our wonderful natural world.

For me there are several habitats I love but the beach or seaside is a favourite. The feeling of the soft fine sand between my toes, the sound of the crashing waves, the salty smell and breeze in my hair is enhanced when it is sunny and warm. It enables a relaxation to seep through my body.

Sitting or lying in this outdoor space with my senses alive I can reflect on issues of the day or more likely chill out………bliss!

When the weather is cooler testing muscles not used so regularly in a working environment to walk, clamber and explore brings a childish thrill.

This is the life 😃

 

 

 

Quiet time….just be!

A busy household – part time intense job, teenagers, step-teenagers, animals, music, driving, stress, older active mum, working away husband, friends, learning and running a household. Quiet time I ask?

Essential…if you are going to keep your mind calm, your body functioning and your mental health in one piece.We all know this on some level but it is trying to fit it in.

So we need to develop strategies to make it happen.

Find a peaceful place – where you don’t have to overthink of anything, time for you to focus on the here and now. Focus on you! Even if only for 10-15 minutes each day:-

Walk the dog

Sit in the park

Plan a relaxing bubble bath

Walk through countryside

Reading a book or magasine

Gardening

Play sport or exercise class

Sing

Painting

These are some of the things I have tried .Whatever allows you to have that feeling of tuning out or ‘flow’ , where your mind switches off and you can just be. Be in the moment.

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With people demanding of your time and energy for much of the day, you need and deserve this time and space to replenish your energy levels.

If this is difficult for you, I know I have been there, plan to make it a priority 🙂